There are several good things about planning your own funeral. One of them is that you'll be planning exactly what you desire for the services. The other aspect that is positive about planning your own service is that your loved ones will be freed of that burden. Here are some ideas that might help you.
Talk To The Right People - Communication is one of the important parts of planning your funeral.
- Be sure to let your loved ones know what your plan is. Write everything down and keep your notes in a safe place. In addition, give them to at least two individuals who you can trust to carry out your wishes.
- Talk to a funeral venue, such as Morris Nilsen Funeral Chapel. Give them your plans in writing. Get all necessary payments in order and keep the paper work for financial transactions with the notes you have placed in a safe place. Make sure your loved ones know which finances you have handled.
- Talk to the individuals whom you would like to give talks at the funeral service. Give them important facts about your life, including anecdotes that will add interest to the spoken word.
- Make arrangements with those who will handle music you have chosen. If they will be requiring payment, take care of that, too.
Plan The Funeral Service - Remember that those who will attend your funeral service are there to honor you and to be comforted.
- Consider asking each of your family members to share highlights of your times together. Humorous anecdotes are totally acceptable, as long as they are in good taste.
- If you don't think your family will be comfortable speaking during the emotional time of losing you, ask at least three friends to speak. Asking more than one person will more than likely insure that at least one of them will be available.
- Select music that you love. Hymns like How Great Thou Art and Amazing Grace are among many hymns that would be appropriate for your service. If you are not a religious person, consider choosing songs like The Impossible Dream or I Had It My Way.
- People who attend your funeral will enjoy seeing articles that meant something to you or that illustrated parts of your life. For example, if you love photography, set aside some of the work you have done so it can be part of the display. Pictures of you from your baby days to present days with friends and family members are also great to be on display.
- Consider writing a letter to be read at your funeral service. Express your love and appreciation for those who will be at the service.